The thrill of getting a new idea is one of my absolute favorite things. I LOVE getting a new idea that gives me goosebumps and a rush of adrenalin as I type or write out all the details that came to my head. It’s one of my favorite things about writing. That thrill is why I keep coming back for more.
In life, as in writing, expectations can really trip you up. So I’m starting a series on expectations, critique, criticism, and how to use the opinions of others to your advantage as your power through to your big writing dream.
I, after too many experiences with disappointment, have tried to go through life with fairly low expectations…or at least plenty of grace. It’s not that I don’t think my husband is amazing (I do, he is amazing, all the time), or I always expect my friends to ditch me on coffee dates or anything. But I know that if I let my own high expectations of life-just-simply-doesn’t-happen-to-my-friends-and-they’d-never-ditch-our-coffee-date get in the way, I end up hurting them and me. It works similarly in our working lives and our creative lives.
Expectations (our own and other people’s) can influence how we interact with others, how we address and promote ourselves, and how much effort we put into our daily output.
Expectations come in many forms: some can hurt you, some can help you to your goals, and others you can use to your benefit. Some expectations come from yourself, some can come from people you know, and still others come from people you have never met. Today I’m writing about all three types, focusing mainly on the expectations from others.
No matter what you do, other people will have something to say about it. Whether it’s the choice of who you marry, your latest work presentation, or the shoes you matched with your shirt today, even if you don’t hear it or see it, how we act in the world allows people to create expectations of what they can expect from us.
Ah romance. The passion, the sweet gestures, the long awaited moment of “I love you” or “you’re the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen”! We love reading it. More often than not, we love it regardless of how deep or motivated it is. But I think I can speak for a lot of writers when I say… romance is not my favorite thing to write.
Romance is, of course, it’s own genre, but incorporating romance into other genres can be a bit of a trick. Plagued with corny “I love you”s, too many longing looks to count, and a slew of other…well…let’s just be honest…horrible cliches, fitting a meaningful romance into your stories can be a bit of a problem.
Give me a novel full of deep romances and a variety of characters who change and grow throughout the course of the story and I’m ALL IN. Add in a romance that isn’t shallow, cliche, or boring and you have me sold. But boy is that hard to write.
I don’t know about you, but there are certain areas of writing that I don’t really write in all that often. For instance, I’ve dabbled in poetry, but it’s not a common practice for me to sit down and break out iambic pentameter or haiku. I don’t write outside of my genres much either. And I know I’m not the only one right??
It can be hard to break out of our usual genres…we write them because we love them! I adore fantasy, memoir, and a little sci-fi, but you’d be hard pressed to find me write steampunk, horror, or historical fiction.
But here’s the thing: sometimes writing outside of your genre or “usual” area of writing can actually be amazingly beneficial. Not only does it stretch your scene building and setting skills, but it forces you to write emotions and reactions in different and new situations that you might not be familiar with.
Congrats on finishing Camp NaNoWriMo! What an achievement!
The first thing you should really do is get yourself a glass of champagne or your favorite sparkling beverage and celebrate!
And even if you didn’t reach your goal, still break out the champagne and celebrate, because you started something really hard, and that takes enough guts anyways. You’ll finish in the future. I know it. You know it too right?
So at this point, you’re probably wondering “What do I do now?”
On the first Monday of every month, I create a few writing prompts to help you get writing! You’ll see them here each month and on Instagram @thelexiconwritingblog every Monday.